Tip for When an Aging Parent Doesn’t Want to Move
Did you get to see your aging parents this Thanksgiving? How are they?
Sometimes, a holiday visit brings stark realization about elderly loved ones’ health. Or it can mark the continuation of strained talks about care.
Geriatric care manager Lindi Fodrini-Johnson recently covered a tip for one type of disagreement at her blog: if you think your aging parents need to move but they refuse, suggest a trial run.
It is sometimes good to enlist the help of the family physician in prescribing a “move”. But, what works best is to have a family meeting and express your concerns as “I” messages. Such as, “I worry about your weight loss, Dad.” Or, “It is hard to maintain a big yard and I worry about you falling when trying to keep it up”. Then as a family or child of an aging parent, you ask them to try “Assisted Living” for a few months – usually three.
You can read her post here: “How Do I Get My 88 Year Old Dad to Move?” We also have a lot of good previous posts on trying to get aging parents to accept help they need.
There are often solutions other than moving worth considering. Here are some resources that might help:
- “What Are the Different Care Options, and When Are They Viable for Consideration?”
- “Remodeling Tips for Aging in Place: Issues to Consider”
- OurParents Care Options Advisor: a four-minute survey to help determine which options might work best
- OurParents senior-care search engine, with ratings, reviews and information
If you have any questions about this post or need help finding senior-care options for a loved one, call 1-866-483-4896 to speak with a care advisor in your area.