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How to Help Stubborn Aging Parent: Sit Back and Watch, Says Advisor

March 31, 2011

Do your aging parents reject in-home help? They’re not the only ones. Dale Carter, author of Transitioning Your Aging Parent: A 5 Step Guide Through Crisis & Change, says people ask her for advice about that all the time. So she blogged about it, offering four tips on what to do. One of them is simply to observe for a day or two:

Become like a quiet shadow beside your parent. Envision yourself as a caring friend. Watch how your parent moves, what they struggle with, what makes them happy, how they interact with their friends and the outside world. Don’t let yourself be overwhelmed or disturbed by what you see. By all means, do NOT jump into solution-mode. I love this quote by James Thurber, “Let us not look back in anger or forward in fear, but around in awareness.”

Read all her tips here: “How to Help an Aging Parent Who Refuses Help.”

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Leigh Ann Otte is a freelance writer who covers finding and paying for senior care for OurParents. If you have any questions about this post or need help finding senior-care options for a loved one, call 1-866-483-4896 to speak with a care advisor in your area.

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